Turn Jealousy Into Self-Esteem

Have you ever felt jealous? Probably yes. Jealousy arises from the fear of losing someone and within this process there are three people involved: the jealous person, the person we fear losing and someone who wants to be with the person we love.

Jealousy destroys the couple because it causes great distrust. This extreme jealousy demonstrates that the person is very insecure.

Today we are going to get to know jealousy in depth so that we can transform it into self-esteem. Jealous people are lacking in self-esteem.

Are there reasons for my jealousy?

People who are victims of jealousy believe that their partner has no reason to be jealous. If you don’t give reasons, how is that possible?

Jealous people have more reasons than we think, although this does not justify their behavior.

The problem is that jealous people have low self-esteem and believe that anyone, real or imagined, is better than them.

In addition, they are very insecure and believe that they need to exercise complete control over the other person. This can happen, especially if the partner has been unfaithful before and they are afraid it will happen again.

Often  the jealous person is jealous of something that doesn’t really exist; a polite action can be confused with a “flirt”. The situation is the result of your exaggerated imagination, it is not real.

In fact, the jealous person behaves this way because he suffers a lot just thinking about the possibility of a betrayal. When she tries to avoid this anxiety, exaggerated fear appears and she feels very jealous.

But what can we do? Reflect on where this insecurity comes from and let go of that possessiveness. That way, we will be happier and free from jealousy.

Trust, increase your self-esteem

If you want to stop being a jealous person, or want to help someone stop being jealous, the first thing is to build self-esteem. Rebuilding self-esteem helps to overcome jealousy attacks.

Be sure of yourself and work through your fears. Every fear has a cause; the ideal is to understand the cause of this insecurity and try to overcome it.

Think, for example, how uncomfortable you feel when you look at your partner. Why does it offend him so much instead of being proud of him?

People can look and admire your partner. But he is yours, you chose him. Why do you believe someone can take it away from you?

Trust your partner and you will feel much more confident, you will start to face the situation calmly and calmly. Isn’t this more gratifying than the control you exercised before?

Nobody owns anybody else. We are all free and this does not mean that our partner will abandon us.

Also, if you’ve ever been unfaithful, you may be afraid that your partner will act the same way you do.

You’ve been wrong before and believe anyone can fail. How can you judge and condemn something you’ve done? You have to be consistent.

Jealousy can also arise if the person you love has been unfaithful. In this case, we lost confidence in her. If we are not able to truly forgive a betrayal, that relationship will end sooner or later.

Are you a jealous person? If so, you need to find the cause of that jealousy and address it. If you can’t, maybe you’re not with the right person.

If jealousy plagues you, your relationship will never be healthy. Think about yourself and the security you want to feel, trust and increase your self-esteem.

Often  the person who causes us jealousy only exists in our imagination…