If You Love Me, Demonstrate

If you love me, show it, not with words, but with attitude. It is useless to me these beautiful terms that come out of your mouth for the delight of my ears. Don’t fool me with them, don’t confuse me. If you really love me, show it with actions.

In the world of relationships, or rather, of the illusions of relationships, disappointments and disappointments are more and more frequent. A problem that is intensified by the speed with which we start our relationships, without waiting for the other person to demonstrate who they really are. In this way we form a wrong image, but over time the person will show their true face.

passion blinds us

We must not forget that in the first stage of the relationship, passion blinds us. We are so deluded with wanting this person to be a part of our lives that we forget to see everything from another perspective. Unwillingly and unwillingly, we are observing the reality we want, not what it really is.

It seems that in these moments it is not necessary to demonstrate anything. Everything is beautiful, there is a need to meet and spend time together. The two want to get to know each other more and this eludes them both, but it also turns into a smoke bomb if the couple is upside down for too long.

It’s also true that in these early moments in a relationship, people show a nicer side. We don’t mean to say that they lie, but rather that maybe they decorate their way of being a little. This person who was so attentive and concerned about your well-being, suddenly doesn’t act like that anymore. Has she changed?  Or was she not like you thought?

The truth is, neither will be wrong in their assumptions. For your part, you may have created illusions and unrealistic expectations about this person you wanted to share your life with. Your partner may have employed certain techniques to get your attention that are later no longer needed.

Let’s not forget that when we meet someone our goal is for her or him to pay attention to us. If everything creates discomfort right from the start, it will be impossible to start a relationship. Because of all this, over time it’s not that people change, it’s just that they no longer have any incentive to demonstrate and do their best to be able to fall in love again.

demonstrate love with actions

This relaxation that reaches us after having managed to be with the person we wanted means that over the years we do not put all our energy into continuing to fall in love every day. Demonstrations of affection become less frequent and words of affection become meaningless. Everything fell into a routine.

But love shows itself with actions, not empty words. That touching of hands, a sincere kiss for no reason at all, can indicate to the members of a relationship that affection and desire are still alive between them. And keep in mind that this is all for both of you.

If over the years you’ve been disappointed that your partner has changed, think about it and try to see the situation from another perspective. Maybe you formed an image of her that wasn’t real. Every relationship changes over time. Routine, sharing moments together, problems, everything influences.

For all this there is a very calm solution: communication. It’s necessary to talk about this situation, see if you’ve moved away from each other, what happened so that you don’t show the affection as you did before. Sometimes it’s embarrassing to broach this topic, perhaps because it takes you a long time without doing it. However, it is very necessary.

It is also important that you have the right perspective on your relationship so that you can see in a different way how you evolved within it. Sometimes we are not aware that we are disappointed in this person because now he does not respect us, he abuses us psychologically, he treats us with indifference. All this happens because a past full of illusions is still alive in our minds.

It is normal that over the years relationships and people change, so it is necessary to talk about the relationship and try to recover what made us fall in love with the person who is by our side today. Why shouldn’t we relax, because nothing is right, and because if we try so hard one day, why not keep doing it for the rest of our lives?

Never forget:  if you love me, show it, but with words that are supported by sincere and real actions.