Good People Are Also Entitled To Say “enough”

Good people do not take vacations or work hours. No one rewards them for what they do, nor do they want this reward. They’re made of unusual material, but that’s how they understand life, and that’s how their heart speaks to them.

In reality, it’s more complex than we think. When someone does things of their own free will, it is their spirit that guides them, it is spontaneity and their own integrity. But when other people violate these principles to reach a goal in pursuit of their own benefit, instead of blaming those who manipulated them, they blame themselves. It’s the most common.

Good people hear that they are naive, that they give a lot, that they don’t know how to intuit things, people…. And all this, all these negative comments, gradually undermine self-esteem in a dangerous way.

the good people and their castles

When we notice the invasion of others in our personal spaces, we usually create strategies to protect ourselves. What’s more, we hold others responsible for this offense. But with good people, it doesn’t always happen that way.

We must be clear that we all need to have a space of control, a personal boundary beyond which it is mandatory to raise our walls so that we are not vulnerable. To be even more convinced about this, it is important to take these simple aspects into account:

Setting limits won’t set you apart from others

Good people have every right to say “enough” without being called selfish. We know that those around them are more than used to always saying yes, to being available with a smile.

• Setting boundaries will help you get to know yourself and others. You must know how far you want to go, and from there, the others must also adjust.
• Once these boundaries are clear, relationships will be healthier.
• This will help you get to know yourself better.

Even love needs limits

If anyone thought otherwise, they are wrong. There is no more necessary context in which to set clear boundaries than in affective, family or friendship relationships. In reality, there is no more affectionate and companionable way than being able to calmly say “no” without worrying about the fear that the other person will be offended or upset by it.

Liking someone, whether that person is your partner, a friend or even a family member, is to be able to act with freedom in accordance with our principles, knowing that we will be respected at all times.

Saying “enough” will never make you a bad person

Before convincing others, you must convince yourself. It is necessary to be able to say “enough,” and say it out loud with conviction, without being ashamed of it or feeling bad. Think that if day after day, you give in to everything that is asked of you, what ends up happening, in fact, is that they are stealing your energy, your self-esteem, and, in turn… they will convert you into someone you are not .

There will come a time when, when you want to help someone for real, it will become impossible. You will have no strength, no courage, and worse, no longer believe in you.

The importance of drawing an imaginary line between yourself and others

Creating boundaries around yourself is not like creating overnight a punishment line for others, where you are isolated and protected at the same time. It’s exactly the opposite…

All of this will give you the security of acting with integrity to build genuine positive relationships. That way, those who really like you will understand, because good people, despite not wanting anything in return, need reciprocity and respect.

Images courtesy of Karen Jones Lee, Miranda Klark, Art Graphic Swit