The Worst Sadness Is That It Has No Witnesses

Sadness molds very well to our spirit when we open it to it. It finds itself in an ever-widening hole, and it can settle permanently.

But the place where pain is most comfortable is in the context of loneliness. When we’re alone, we don’t bother to hide it, and we submit completely to its orders.

On the other hand, this state of sadness can make others worry about you, interested in cheering you up, wanting to make you feel good… But with this attitude, they unconsciously reinforce your situation.

You isolate yourself in a comfortable bubble of pain that others try to burst.

Sadness makes us feel bad but, on the other hand, it leads to a false calm, immobility and self-indulgence in pain. We feel we don’t want to take new risks.

Why does sadness become resistant?

It is said that there is no worse addiction to a substance than when the individual does not need anyone to consume it.

He no longer expects to be accompanied or in certain social contexts of leisure and company. He only needs to be with his substance to be able to find pleasure, because there are no rules or obstacles for consumption to become generalized at any time of the day.

With sadness it is the same as with a substance. If a person lives it in solitude and does not want to share it, he adheres to his existence without any parameters or obstacles. This is, in part, logical, as we don’t want them to see us faded and sad.

So, let’s get into a dynamic of isolation. If it goes on for a long time, we can cause depression to arise, pain that turns to shadow.

How to fight sadness?

In order not to reach this depressive state, it is convenient that sadness ceases to camp in your heart. It is necessary to make it difficult for her:

• For starters, get away from the drama and the people who create it.
• Start building pleasurable situations in your life with new people.
• It is important that we are relaxed, and for that we need to know how to detect a friend who does not bring relaxation, and understand that at this moment he is not suitable for us.
• Do more of the things you love: read, listen to music, play sports, do crafts… none of this is a waste of time considering what we might lose if sadness becomes chronic.

• Vent if necessary, don’t feel ashamed. Go out and dare to be with people, even if you don’t feel like it… the desire will show up at some point.
• Don’t close yourself off to life. Analyze possible changes, including thinking about how to start from scratch without hurting others.

In a nutshell, make life difficult for sadness!

Knowing how to make room for sadness without it consuming it

Throughout our history we will live sad moments, this is irremediable. Allow yourself to cry, let off steam, be aware that you may fall at some point and need solitude to experience the sadness.

But keep in mind that this feeling won’t leave you if you don’t set limits and strive to push it away, because it’s not just desires, but actions to overcome it.

So cry, cry without witnesses if you like, but don’t forget that this should always be time-consuming. These are feelings that we must not repress, but they cannot create a nest in our soul either.

Sadness is very comfortable in a lonely soul. No one bothers her and she won’t go away if you don’t make the effort.