Discover Your Inner Child And Keep It In Your Adult Life

We call the inner child the image we have of ourselves in terms of feelings, appreciation, recognition of skills and abilities, and therefore the personal satisfaction of being who we are.

Our inner children arose in childhood and continue to reappear in situations of suffering, pain, or problems often caused by unresolved conflicts or emotional blocks in childhood. But all is not lost: we can regain our inner self by restoring the image we have of ourselves.

Childhood, stage of recognition

It is during childhood that our own self-knowledge is created, that is, the image we have of ourselves, and this occurs based on what our parents project on us, and on the experiences and circumstances we are experiencing.

When we are little, reference adults serve us as mirrors. It is in them that we see ourselves to recognize ourselves and know who we are. Sometimes, even though our parents intend to give us what they think is best, we don’t know how to ask for what we need and they don’t know exactly what we want.

Therefore, we can grow with needs, pain, sadness, and even childhood traumas that, subconsciously, leave their mark even though we don’t know why.

lose childhood

When childhood was not a happy stage, we grew up emotionally dissatisfied  and without intensely living this stage that we should have lived. The child becomes an adult, but without resolving childhood conflicts (since they are subconscious), he feels a personal dissatisfaction that will drag on from childhood to adulthood.

Often when we become adults we don’t remember stages of our childhood because we may have selective amnesia. This is a symptom of unresolved internal conflicts.

We lose our inner child,  we feel dissatisfied with ourselves, and when we reach adulthood, we lose all childhood illusions.  We don’t have projects or desires, nor do we want to use games as a means of distraction and leisure. Life becomes an apathetic, serious, sad and dissatisfied life.

the adult inner child

When we reach adulthood, if the previous stage was satisfactory and there is no other inconvenience, the child we were is still present and appears in fun moments, full of childhood fantasies, enjoying the small moments.

We could say that, despite the problems of adult life, life can continue to be fun, surprising, passionate and, in short, happy. It’s not because we’re adults that we have to forsake fun and fantasy.

Recover your inner child

Regaining our inner child means creating a more satisfying image of ourselves, valuing and loving us, acknowledging our abilities and capabilities, and, in addition, projecting wishes and dreams. Therefore, restoring personal satisfaction and feeling happiness.

To recover our inner child, we can take the following steps:

• Visualizing the child we were in our childhood and imagining that we care for and love him.
• Remembering your tastes and interests as a child and enjoying them now as an adult: this will transport you back to childhood.
• Playing, keeping the fantasy with small details and doing what we liked when we were children, adapting to adult life.
• Laughing, accepting and forgiving the people who in our childhood caused us pain.
• Imagining what we would have liked to hear as children and expressing ourselves as adults.
• Listening to our inner self and considering the deepest longings of our being.
• Looking at ourselves, taking care of us, loving us and valuing us.